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My poor, poor friends.

In which I talk to my friend-that-I-am-always-so-eager-and-hopeful-of-looking-cool-and-awesome-in-front-of-and-impressing-them-and-yet-rarely-do*

“Talk to me, Goose.”

“Goose?”

“Yes. In traditional Loralee fashion, I have decided that you need a nickname. So, I am going to call you, “Goose” because, HELLO, NICKNAME OF AWESOME because Top Gun was just hawt. And then I could totally be all Meg Ryan and yell out, ‘TAKE ME TO BED OR LOSE ME FOREVER” when we’re, like, in a deli and then fake an orgasm at the table and ignore all the wondering “are they?” stares because we’re girls n’ stuff.”

“You know Goose dies, right?”

“And?”

In which I talk to my truly-lovable-and-recently-reformed-from-the-couples-swinging-lifestyle-when-he-recently-wed-his-longtime-girlfriend-and-joined-his-stepkid’s-PTA-friend**

“I signed up for the PTA at my kid’s school!”

“Wait…WHAT? You did?”

“Yeah!”

“Umm…can I just give you a little advice?”

“Sure!”

“I LOVE you and I know that y’all aren’t swingers anymore and all that, but, um…should you ever go back to the lifestyle please, please, please, please for the love of all that IS do NOT hook up with ANYONE IN THE PTA. As a former 4-term-President, just take my word on this. Put your dick in a hornet nest first. It’s safer, dude.”

In which I talk to my friend about how Jonathan and I have difficulty navigating our very different political beliefs***

“It is just so hard. I am beginning to think that he should just stay on a ”Jonathan-is-libertarian-except-for-that-whole-gay-marriage-thing” island and I stay on an “everytime-I-hear-of-something-horrible-happening-my-first-instinct-is-to-say-THERE-NEEDS-TO-BE-A-LAW!” island.  OH, and of course, we need to have “Conjugal Island” in the middle for hooking up.”

In which I decide to play a tiny practical joke on the childhood-like-my-brother-friend-visiting-on-vacation-that-I-accompanied-on-errands-that-includes-a-stop-at-the-pharmacy-to-pick-up-his-girlfriends-prescription-of-birth-control-when-the-female-pharmacist-mistakes-me-for-his-wife****

“Is this for you, Ma’am?”

“Why, YES. Yes, it is.”

“Do you have any questions about its use?”

“Oh, NO. I am totally good with it now. I mean, I didn’t USED TO BE, obviously…we have 7 kids under the age of 8 to show for that.”

“You have SEVEN kids under 8?”

“Yup! All girls. We named them after the colors of the rainbow! We have Scarlett, Valencia, Saffron, Kelly, Bonnie, and our twins Amalie and
Violet! We did kind of have to make a stretch with Bonnie and Amalie. Bonnie is for “Bonnie Blue” and Amalie is the combination of the Indigo Girl’s names, Amy and Emily. And while we’d REALLY like more, I think we should wait until he can get on full time at WalMart.”

(Blink, blink, blinkity-blink)

“Damn! Can’t you all just get yourself a ’52-inch and watch TV or something?”

(Later…)

“You realize that pharmacist was looking at me like I was a total asshole, right?’

“Well, I like to keep our friendship interesting. Also? You never got me a birthday present after I delivered the twins, so consider it payback.”

In which I talk about a tweet I get from a friend-after-I-get-all-self-righteous-on-Twitter-about-blogging-ethics-and-High-Fructose-Corn-Syrup-and-the-universe-decides-I-am-too-big-for-my-britches-and-gives-me-a-dose-of-humility*****

LONG back story short: A big site called MomCentral was paid by The Corn Refiners Association  for a blogger outreach program. MomCentral had some mom bloggers blog on behalf of the CRA and High Fructose Corn Syrup (HFCS-which is controversial as all get out at the moment). They were compensated in gift certificates.

The fallout over the client and their product and the way MomCentral ran everything was not pretty.

Feelings got hurt.

One blogger in particular voiced an opinion.

Then Stacy Debroff, CEO of MomCentral wrote a response about how we, as mom  bloggers should not call out individual bloggers or be petty, un-supportive or critical. All in a post in which she was calling out a mom blogger and being petty, and critical. (Oh, and she also she labled the mom blogger in question and anyone who followed her “Borg”, complete with funky Sci-Fi photo.) I like Liz, I thought I had some good points, so I went to MomCentral’s post and I chimed in with this comment:

My personal feeling is that this client and the program selected was probably not going to go over well with mom bloggers, but what is done is done.

I’m surprised at the surprise at criticism of this highly charged issue and client.

This past June, McDonald’s flew my family to its headquarters to participate in a 3-day blogging event.  I thought long and hard about it before going, what putting my blog and name directly in conjunction with theirs would mean as far as backlash, did my homework, decided I loved McDonalds and would participate and then braced myself for the possibility of huge amounts of criticism. It comes with putting your blog name onto something that is embroiled in debate and controversy, you know? So, I am a little surprised (with the furor over HFCS) at the bloggers reactions to criticism they surely should have known would come?

As for this post, well…it doesn’t seem genuine to say “stop calling out mom bloggers and support them by not being critical and petty” when your post smacks of calling out mom bloggers, being critical and petty.

I just feel a good PR opportunity was wasted here.

P.S. I eat HFCS

After I posted, she deleted all the comments but the 2 that were positive and then closed the forum stating that she was getting attacking and profane comments from “The Queen Borg” supporters. (EHEM. BULL. I read every one.)

Which, in my world is hugely disgusting and wrong from an ethical point of view and I went from having a mild opinion to PISSED OFF in about 3-seconds.

Maybe it was because I was hormonal, maybe it was because I had a lot of pent up steam from biting my tongue off about Gay Marriage, or maybe it was just because I still haven’t had time or the will to go and buy acceptable and comfy knickers, but I went and got all SCRAPPY on Twitter in the wee smalls of last night.

I will condense but my Twitter stream (my handle is ’looneytunes’) looked something like this:

looneytunes Oct 5, 9:54pm via HootSuite

WOW. So, I commented on @momcentral. NOW all but 2 comments (supportive) are deleted and comments closed. And she is a businesswoman? #FAIL

looneytunes Oct 5, 9:59pm via HootSuite

This is just insulting. You run a huge site, you take $,open up bloggers to criticism and then you DELETE ANY CRITICISM AND CLOSE COMMENTS? #LAME

looneytunes Oct 5, 10:05pm via HootSuite

@lauriewrites I was mildly concerned/interested before.NOW @momcentral has made me go from mild to PISSED in 2 clicks of her mouse. #coverup

looneytunes Oct 5, 10:11pm via HootSuite

@kitchenmage @momcentral. She deleted all but supportive comments (all 2), closed comments. HUGE, HUGE PR fail made WORSE. http://ht.ly/2P8sK

looneytunes Oct 5, 10:14pm via HootSuite

The irony of all of this (re: @momcentral coverup) I EAT HFCS. Way to make an enemy out of a friendly, dude.

looneytunes Oct 5, 10:23pm via HootSuite

RT @BackpackingDad: So @momcentral writes a post accusing @mom101 et al of attacking Free Speech, but deletes dissenting comments. Holy fail

And on and on it went. Lots of people were already involved before I got annoyed, many more joined in after. (You know, the way blog drama goes. :)) THEN it got interesting. A reader sent me a private Tweet with “the handle of the social media director of communications for the association”. The social media director is who you want to direct your online praise/concern to regarding a brand.

His handle was @Ken4Corn.

And I was already piiiissssed.

So, I am afraid Mr. @Ken4Corn got quite an earful from INDIGNANT! MISS!! LOONEYTUNES!!!

(Presenting an (overly) dramatic re-enactment of Twitter Drama since I deleted the tweets for reasons that will soon be explained:)

@Ken4Corn You should know that @momcentral has been unethical in her online behavior about criticism for the HFCS campaign.

@Ken4Corn @momcentral took money from you, her campaign failed and she just made it So! Much! Worse!

@Ken4Corn And I consume HFCS, dude. I was a friendly! So, way to turn the tables, @momcentral!

@Ken4Corn AND @momcentral deleted all but supportive comments! She closed the form for public opinion on a public campaign!

@Ken4Corn AND AND! @momcentral went all Sci-fi and brought Star Trek The Next Generation into it!

@Ken4Corn AND AND AND now I am wondering what kind of association would work with someone that is unethical.

@Ken4Corn AND AND AND @Ken4Corn! I mean, really! If they can do that what if everyone is right and HFCS is reallyjust Satanic excretions of Beelzebub? HMMM, @Ken4Corn??? I mean what IF it really sucks? Like maybe it really DOES do bad things, @Ken4Corn! Like cause cancer, and leprosy, and ADHD,  and migraines, and erectile dysfunction, and ulcers, and measals, and hantavirus, and tsunamis, and inflation, and PMS, and herpes, and global warming, and acne, and killing puppies and weevils, and child slave labor and people who wear socks with Birkenstocks and  WHAT IF IT IS RESPONSIBLE FOR JUSTIN BEIBER AND SNOOKIE FROM JERSEY SHORE?!!!!!! WHAT THEN @Ken4Corn?!! WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO SAY FOR YOUR DAMN SELF, @Ken4Corn??!!! HMMMM????!!!******

And then I got a tweet from a friend:

@looneytunes Um, @Ken4Corn is the communications director of the National Corn GROWERS Association. Not the Corn REFINERS Association.

Uh….

Well, damn.

Whoops.

My bad.

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*It’s a curse, man. If they were a guy they would totally have been my unrequited middle school crush. Sigh. To be fair, I’m sure I didn’t help my cause much with this exchange. :)

**Don’t even try to guess who this is, yo.  It’s not exactly a secret but I will never, ever tell. And many of you would never, ever believe me anyway. ;)

***I am not quite sure how to take Jonathan’s assessment that “his island would be the one with all the productive people on it”. Though sticking up a sign that says “Ferry to Conjugal Island is closed. Too bad, so sad.” sounds really appealing. (You know, if I was one of those women who used witholding sex to punish their man. Which I do not. TEMPTING THOUGH IT IS AT TIMES.)

****I know, I know. EVEN though it was hilarious, and EVEN THOUGH it was perhaps the greatest comedic real life moment I’ve ever had, it was over the top, inconsiderate and mean of me to do. I and I totally regret doing it.  Maybe. ;)

*****I MIGHT be exaggerating my accusations a wee bit here.  After all, Twitter only allows 140 characters per tweet. (And? Ken4Corn is THE BEST SPORT OF ALL TIME. I profusely apologized as soon as I found my error and took full responsibility for being a neglectful, rash idiot. And despite waking up to a WHOLE lotta various tweets that had NOTHING to do with him, Ken4Corn was kind enough to accept my offer of pop rocks, a medal for being the most understanding person on Twitter and a drink.)

So use all of this information wisely the next time you catch yourself wishing with all your heart that you were my BFF, dudes.

I’m a handful.

:)

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Discussion

  1. 1

    What’s high fructose corn syrup? Is it something you put on swingers?

  2. 4

    I’ve been quietly following the HFCS/MomCentral thing this week. After reading your thread of the tweets above, all I can think of is Emily Litella: “Oh. Nevermind.”

  3. 6

    … the 140 characters, who has the brain capacity to come up with clever so succinctly all. of. the. time!
    There are days that I wish you lived in the house next door, rather than somewhere in the deepest darkest depths of my computer screen. So bff, until a wormhole miraculously forms to shoot me thro time and space – tweeting it shall be – but perhaps I will stop tweeting in my underwear just in case ;)

  4. 7
    avatar Della says:

    (no one will get this but Loralee)

    *faint*

    she said friend not tweep

  5. 9
    avatar mom101 says:

    The great irony of it all is now your comment lives on all sorts of blogs and not just one.

  6. 11
    avatar Joe in N. Calif says:

    Day-um! Time for you to detox from all that diet Coke! Just set it down and walk away. You can do it.

    I do agree with getting pissed off somewhat irked at having someone who dishes out onto others then leaving only comments that agree and closing comments. If you are going to shovel manure onto others, you need to expect others to return the favor.

    Why, when it is called “Twitter” do you “tweet” rather than “Twit?” Doesn’t make sense. When that abomination first came out I started getting all sorts of text messages on my phone, from people I had never heard of, and had no clue what was going on, but at 10¢ per, it started adding up. I finally responded to one to find out what the heck was happening (I thought some little twerp had typoed when giving out his or her number, and it spread to all the friends quicker than boiled asparagus), did a search to find it, called the company and asked that my number be blocked from it. I hadn’t signed up for it, and didn’t want to keep getting texts from 14 to 16-somethings, thank you very much. I think I offended the people when I told them I had no idea what Twitter was, had never heard of it, didn’t see the use of it, and had no desire to use it.

    • 12
      avatar loralee says:

      The developer read the definition of Twitter “a short burst of inconsequential information,” and “chirps from birds.”

      And thought it was perfect. The logo is a bird and birds go “tweet tweet” at each other, so “Tweet” is the acceptable term.

      Not everyone gets nor likes “The Twitter”.

      I have been on since 2006, I think, and well…my account just sat there for about a year. I think that most people that have success with it either have a lot of friends on Twitter, a particular passion or a blog or business to anchor it to.

      I adore it. I can get quick info out to the 10,000 following me, catch up with blog friends, have short conversation, promote posts and blogs of others…I love it.

      It is a tremendous marketing tool for me and many other bloggers.

      It is like crack and I am on there a LOT.

      Not everyone is like this. Most aren’t. My husband (whose handle is, brace yourself, @rationaltunes) uses it mainly to follow the tweets from his favorite news sites, etc.

      You can really use it many different ways but again, it’s not for everyone.

      (And also, I would never text tweet, even if you had an unlimited plan. Without a smartphone and a good application my head would explode.)

      • 13
        avatar Joe in N. Calif says:

        That reminds me, it has been a month or so since I checked MyFaceSpaceBook (whatever the heck it is called). I should do that sometime soon.

        • 14
          avatar loralee says:

          I am worse at Facebooking, although I became a lot more active at it when a friend that doesn’t really dig my blog friended me and it was how I kept up with them.

          Might be useful thing. Although, you guys have a big community of sorts at Lex’s (kind of like what this place was, then wasn’t, but is going back to again) so, you may not feel the need to have it.

      • 15
        avatar Megan says:

        okay – totally loving the Twitter handle “@rationaltunes”! So freaking funny!

    • 16
      avatar loralee says:

      Also, I know. Sigh. It’s been a long week. Do not know WHAT got into me. (sts) :)

  7. 17
    avatar Suzanne says:

    I am ROLLING at the tweets, dude!

    And the pharmacist with the birth control? Priceless! My pharmacist and I would laugh at the women who would bring pill packs back with only a couple of pills out of them (the ones where you did this) and the explanation these women would give “I’m supposed to take them when I had sex, right?”

    And the rainbow names, would you name a boy Roy G Biv?

  8. 18
    avatar jennie w. says:

    To be healthy I buy the Mountain Dew throwback with real sugar.

  9. 22

    Thanks for such an entertaining morning yesterday when I fired up my TweetDeck!

  10. 25
    avatar Mae says:

    ok but wait.

    Are we blaming HFCS for causing the killing of puppies AND weevils, or for causing the killing of the puppies, And also for causing the existence of the weevils?

    Because I am completely down with the causing of the killing of the weevils. If I need to eat more HFCS for the sake of continued weevil deaths, please just let me know and I will be completely on board, no gift certificate required.

    PS the momcentral chick is a nutjob.

  11. 27
    avatar Mongo says:

    One of the beauties of visiting other people’s blog sites is the ability to remain incognito, but then you discover some of the crew on FB and the world expands a bit…sometimes a bit too much. Especially if you’re an otherwise private person.
    “Oh, so that’s what you look like!”
    “EW! You like @#%%@$ page?”
    etc. etc. etc.

    I’m actually starting to get over the privacy part, and enjoy FB and Twitter. Old friends and classmates fret on FB over what has become of me. “You’re so…!” Yeah… Ain’t it lovely? I dig Twitter, although that 140 character thing could stand growing a bit to, like, 200. Which would have to grow to 300, and then what?

    There are even a couple of unused blog pages, with the challenge there being that we’re actually supposed to think up stuff and write about it. {sigh}

    I’m a great responder, but don’t ask me to come up with stuff. I’d give up working, almost give up eating and live on drinking tea, laundry would never get done, and I’d end up sleeping in the park at night…which there are a few of here in Monroe.

    Spikkin a which. Stuff to do. See! It’s almost 10:00, and I got stuff to do! What are you people trying to do to me?!? I gotta go!
    Oh man…

    • 28
      avatar loralee says:

      Yeah, I pretty much blew my privacy to bits when I stuck my very unusual first name in my URL. Smooth move, that.
      :)

      I’ve gotten over it though.

      And I realized the other day just HOW MANY WORDS I write a day. It’s staggering, really. There are whole books in the archives of my blog.

  12. 29
    avatar DB says:

    That was… um… frantic.

    The HFCS stuff concerns me because it’s literally in everything. Even the english muffins I buy at the grocery store. While I don’t actively avoid it, I keep wondering why it’s in so many products…

    • 30
      avatar loralee says:

      I know.

      SIGH.

      I had my knickers in QUITE a twist. Not proud of it. And, yes…it is in everything which is weird, but as a whole, I don’t object to it, just that it is hugely overused. (Of course I haven’t researched it to death either.)

    • 31
      avatar Joe in N. Calif says:

      It’s cheap. That is what it comes down to. In and of itself it isn’t bad. The problem comes when manufacturers use it to replace sugar, and then can say something like “No Sugar Added.” Glucose, fructose, honey, molasses, corn syrup, etc. are all sugars of various sorts. But because of the way the labeling laws work, they can add that stuff and can claim that there is no sugar in the product.

      • 32
        avatar loralee says:

        Hmmm…

        So, I am totally wondering why it is more evil than sugar? Because seriously, some people are treating it like its poison.

        • 33
          avatar Joe in N. Calif says:

          Because it is “processed.” And all “processed” foods are Eeee-vvvviiilllll. And of course it is Big Business that makes HFCS, and the products it is used in, and we all know that Big Business is also Eeee-vvvviiilllll.

          And over consumption of it leads to obesity. (of course, over consumption of just about anything – tofu, brown rice, yummy soy burgers – can do that).

          Mostly alarmist propagandists spreading garbage that sounds as if it is backed by science and a public willing to buy into the scare. For the most part people don’t dig into claims like that, look at how eager people are to swallow anthropogenic global warming – the same data set that was used to “prove” the prior global cooling scare is now being used to claim that human activity is causing warming. Well, I guess this year it is some nebulous, undefined change in climate.

          Geez…I’m being more cynical than usual today.

  13. 35

    LMAO…. Maybe Ken4Corn is gay and will read your supportive gay marriage post and forgive you for the insanity. Your former swinger friend must not swing with others in the PTA. I too am a former PTA President – that is one ball of wax you don’t want to play with. As for Mom Central – All the sci-fi references made me have to read that post like three times to get it.

    • 36
      avatar loralee says:

      OMG, RIGHT?

      Can you imagine any enviornment for more potential clusterphuckary than stinking your pen in the PTA ink?

      GAH!

      The nightmares it would cause.

      I was a Next Generation fan so I totally got the reference. And JUST how insulting it was.

      P.S. Man, I have already caused poor Ken4Corn enough drama without wondering about his orientation! :)

  14. 37
    avatar Buck says:

    Well, damn.

    Whoops.

    My bad.

    Heh. Stuff happens. Nice recovery, tho!

    • 38
      avatar loralee says:

      I was very apologetic. That is the one thing I will say about me. I may screw up ROYALLY at times but I am never prideful or stubborn about admitting a wrong and taking due blame.

      Hell, I went all fisticuffs with a friend about foxhunting and I totally admitted they were correct. Took me 3-months to debate it in my head but I can say when I’ve erred. :)

  15. 39
    avatar Kellie says:

    I’m so happy I found you/your blog. Every day I look forward to what will happen next :) Thanks for being you!

    • 40
      avatar loralee says:

      I’m so glad you like it! (And I am so glad that you are a different Kellie than the one I thought when I clicked. She spelled her name the same way. She was a bit of a troll. YOU however, are not!!!)

      Welcome, welcome!! xo

  16. 41
    avatar Suebob says:

    I blame too much diet coke.

  17. 43
    avatar Debra says:

    Umm, sorry, despite all the HFCS drama, I still wanna be a BFF!

  18. 47
    avatar Leslie says:

    Ok, that part where you are pretending to be your friend’s wife at the pharmacy with the brood of RAINBOW children made me laugh so hard I cannot feel my face anymore!

    Did your friend ever forgive you? Does he read your blog? I would love to hear just what he was thinking!I think I would have to forgive a friend who did that because who gets to have a friend as funny as that? Not me! My best friend thinks that taking iphone shots for her husband in her swimsuit is adventurous and exciting. I want to be your BFF with Debra too!

    Question one on your application should be: DO YOU MIND PRACTICAL JOKES IN PUBLIC?

    • 48
      avatar loralee says:

      I have to say it was probably one of the greatest moments of AWESOME EVER. (Again, for ME. I think I embarrassed the hell out of the poor guy)

      I am not sure if he’s forgiven me, but I would probably say yes as he is a very nice person with a kind heart. And he digs me, so it’s likely. He has been known to read me, yes. Most people in my life do at some point or the other. He just lurks though. :)

      I will keep that in mind as I assemble my application. Heh.

  19. 49
    avatar MommaResa says:

    I loved the rainbow kids. I’m not as quick as you are, but I’m the embarrassing friend. I sing loudly, skip around MegaStores and talk too loudly (especially when I don’t mean to). But they love me.

    PS I’m a HFCS enjoyer.
    PSS I live near lots of people who grow corn, so its like supporting the community
    PSSS So what if I like corn syrup on my pancakes instead of maple? ITS DELICIOUS DON’T JUDGE ME
    PPSSS I like having friends, so I’d take an app…
    PPPSSS I also fear rejection so I may not turn it in… but I’d take one for sure!

  20. 52
    avatar joeinvegas says:

    Wow. Another reason for me to ignore Twitter.

    PS – where was that BFF app? Couldn’t find it (or did others take all the copies already)
    PPS I thought HFCS was OK until I read all that stuff about fertilizers.
    PPPS fertilizers bad, but then would half the world starve?
    PPPPS That drug counter thing – beautiful!
    PPPPPS doing it this way is fun

  21. 54
    avatar Jessica says:

    There are numerous studies that link high-fructose corn syrup to various diseases/disorders. There are also some studies showing that it’s the same as sugar. There are ALSO studies that show that eating too much sugar leads to various diseases/disorders. There are also also ALSO studies saying that if you consume too much aspartame, you will probably fall down dead!

    For me, and for a lot of people I think, it boils down to food vs. not-food. If I read “High Fructose Corn Syrup” on a label, I have absolutely no idea what that is made of, whether or not some scientist decided to mix some corn up with a little rat poison this time, just to see what would happen. There’s no regulation, and because it’s Big Business, whatever choices are being made are not motivated by “how can I make whoever eats this muffin really healthy?” but “how can I make the most of the 99 cents whoever eats this muffin is going to pay?” Undoubtedly, corners are being cut, and innovations are being made without being properly tested.

    This is probably true with most food products, but if you buy a bag of sugar and it LOOKS like sugar and TASTES like sugar, it’s probably just sugar.

    So maybe there aren’t any tests saying that High Fructose Corn Syrup will give you some kind of chronic disease, but for other, actual FOODS (fruits, veggies, meat, milks, grains, whatever) have hundreds and thousands of years of Not Readily Killing People and Animals behind them.

    Read some Michael Pollan, yo!

  22. 56

    Nope, not gay. Married, five kids.

    In Food Rules, Michael Pollan cautions against HFCS not because he considers it evil in itself but because he does not like added sweeteners and overly processed foods. And he has no kind words for brands that replace corn sugar with cane sugar in a marketing ploy because it’s just a “scam” as he calls it. He even says “Sugar is sugar.”

  23. 58
    avatar loralee says:

    THANK YOU FOR COMMENTING ABOUT THE PHARMACY because it was seriously hilarious.

    Well, for ME anyway. I’m not sure they have totally forgiven me for that one yet. ;)

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