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** 2/16: She’s awake enough to be talking. This is a very good sign. :)

*Edit: 2/14 I found out that her coma is medically induced. This is good because it means her body didn’t naturally go into one, but it is bad because he seizures were so severe and constant that they had to intubate her and put her into a coma so they would stop. The goal is to be able to bring her out of the coma and then assess where her brain is at and what damage has been done. Fingers crossed.

I got a phone call from my mother while I was trying to wolf down dinner between my dress rehearsal and concert this evening.

My twin sister is at the biggest hospital in Salt Lake City.

She is in the Intensive Care Unit.

She’s in a coma.

Translation: Yes, it’s critical. No, I don’t have any further information than that.

She has many, many neurological disorders and tonight she began seizing and seizing and did not stop.

Whatever is broken in her brain is fine in mine-despite the fact that we are identical.

Being a twin has been hard on both of us our whole lives.

We have a VERY complicated relationship.

You could say that we are estranged.

And yet she shares my DNA.

My face.

Can you ever really be estranged from someone that is a genetic copy of yourself?

It makes all of it worse, somehow.

I am feeling eleventyhundred different things right now. I know that if she pulls through little will probably change between us…it’s a very long story with even longer reasons behind it… but none of that matters at this moment.

I just want her to be ok.

loraina1

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  1. 1
    avatar rachel says:

    Oh honey.

    Parts of me shatter for you while I read this.
    My love, my prayers my heart..

    anything, ever… I will do it.

    Prayers for your family and your sister.

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    Oh my goodness. I’m so sorry, Loralee. Please let us know how things progress. I hope she gets better very soon and she and your family will be in my thoughts. ((hugs))

  3. 3

    Big hugs for you and your family.

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    avatar schmutzie says:

    I’m so sorry to hear it. You and she are in my thoughts.

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    avatar Heather says:

    Wow. That stinks. I’m not more eloquent than that. I want to give you a big hug and even though I’d know it wouldn’t take away the pain I would hope it would make it just a tiny fraction easier.

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    Oh babe.

    Remember that the middle of the night there is the middle of the day here, so if you need me… I am ALWAYS here for you.

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    avatar frelle says:

    I am sorry to hear this, Loralee, and I will be praying for her and for the wisdom that the doctors will be needing. Thank you for sharing your heart with us so we can be thinking of you!

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    avatar Patty says:

    Oh sweetie, I’m so sorry that this is all happening! I really cannot imagine especially with her being your twin. Know that no matter what, you love her and she loves you. Take comfort in that love, if that helps at all. You are right, this just blows. Love from AZ, @1mcmommy

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    avatar Issa says:

    No matter what the relationship is like, she’s still your sibling. Your blood.

    I hope she’s okay. Will be thinking good thoughts your way. Hugs honey.

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    avatar Deb says:

    xo

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    avatar Pgoodness says:

    So sorry. Prayers and good thoughts for bothof you. Xoxo

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    So sorry to hear of this, prayers for her and all of your family.

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    avatar Alice says:

    Oh, my. Thinking good thoughts for you and her, and for your family. Wishing there was more to do, and realizing that if *I* feel powerless, I can’t even conceive of what you’re feeling. Many good wishes, since they’re what I can offer.

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    avatar Sugar Jones says:

    Oh girl, I’m so sorry. Hugs.

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    avatar Laurie says:

    Oh Loralee. Hug for you.

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    Big hug for you. I can’t imagine the whirlwind of emotions you’re feeling right now.

  17. 17
    avatar lisa leonard says:

    thinking of you! xoxo

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    avatar Leah says:

    Thinking of you.

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    avatar Suebob says:

    I understand about sisterhood that is fraught with peril. I also understand that you love them despite everything. Hugs.

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    Oh Loralee. I have an extremely troubled relationship with my only biological sibling and yet, I know I would be crushed if something happened to her. I’m keeping both of you in my heart and prayers. Please let me know if there’s anything we can do.

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    avatar Kelly says:

    Family is so hard. I hope she’s okay, and that you find a way to deal with the torrent of emotions you must be feeling right now.

  22. 22

    So sorry. I hope she pulls through and all goes well. I didn’t know you had a twin. I have twins. xo

  23. 23
    avatar BeenThereMom says:

    I am so, so sorry to hear this. You and your family will be in my prayers tonight. My heart is hurting for you.

  24. 24
    avatar Al_Pal says:

    Oh, geez. *HUGS*
    I’m so sorry.

  25. 25

    I’m so, so sorry. Wishing you peace and comfort – whatever happens.

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    avatar Stephen says:

    Oh Man. Dang it. You know, sometimes, ground that is thought too tough for tillage, brings forth bounty, when turned.

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    avatar Margaret says:

    Oh Loralee I’m so sorry. thinking of you and your sister.

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    avatar Crysm says:

    I’m so very sorry. I hope the Drs can figure out what’s going on and she gets better quickly. **hugs** to you.

  29. 29
    avatar loralee says:

    Thank you so much, everyone. I have very little to do but to sit here and read these and worry.

    I have had emails and DM’s that people are having trouble commenting on my blog. I hope it clears up soon and my apologies. xo

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    avatar Kisha Floren says:

    I am so sorry about what you are feeling right now. I wish for peace and clarity in your thoughts tonight.

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    avatar Headless Mom says:

    You’re both in my prayers tonight. Keep us posted when you can.

  32. 32
    avatar Sara says:

    I’m so sorry to hear this.

    You and your family will be in my thoughts. Sending hope and healing to you.

  33. 33
    avatar Judy Haley says:

    ::hugs:: I hope she pulls through this.

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    avatar Kerri Anne says:

    I’m sorry babe. Sending hugs and support from here.

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    avatar califmom says:

    Sending the most enormous hugs to you and thoughts of peace, my friend.

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    avatar nutty mummy says:

    Oof. That is all sorts of comlicated and conflicting and I just feel so much for you and your family. I really hope she pulls through x

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    avatar Scary Mommy says:

    I had no idea you were a twin. Estranged family relationships are hard enough– I can’t imagine how painful that one must be. Big hugs to you, L. xox

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      avatar Adelas says:

      A bad thing about hearing/commenting late: everyone else said it first.

      A good thing about hearing/commenting late: if you read all the comments, you’ll probably find someone who said exactly what you were thinking. This is mine this time.

  38. 39

    Praying for both of you.

  39. 40
    avatar Chris says:

    I had no idea you were a twin either, hugs and I’m so sorry for this. Family is VERY complicated, prayers for your parents and your sister.

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    avatar Joy says:

    Thinking of you Loralee… (((HUGS)))

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    avatar Chibi Jeebs says:

    I’m so sorry, Loralee. You’re all in my thoughts. *squishy hugs and love*

  42. 43

    I’m so sorry, Loralee. I’m praying for your sister and for you, and will be thinking of you both as we’re driving across Arizona, New Mexico, and part of Texas today.

  43. 44
    avatar Aunt Becky says:

    Sending you love and light. I can’t imagine.

  44. 45
    avatar Jamie says:

    I’m so sorry Loralee. Hugs to you. Wishing life and family relationships didn’t have to be so complicated. :(

  45. 46
    avatar Jennie says:

    I’m thinking of you, Loralee. I hope she is doing better in no time.

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    avatar Tauni says:

    Oh Man I am sooooo sorry! I hope she gets better!! If you need a place to drop off butterlump and the kids while you visit, I don’t live far from said hospital. The boys can play wii and chill while you get a visit in! If there is anything I can do for you, please let me know!

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    avatar Mel says:

    Loralee–holding you in my heart. I’m so sorry about your sister, but sorrier still that the relationship is what it is during this time.

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    avatar Marinka says:

    I didn’t know you were a twin. I’m thinking of you, sweetie. And pulling for you both.

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    avatar Colleen says:

    Sending you love, and strength and hope.

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    avatar jessica says:

    I haven’t spoken to my own sister since last summer and yet if anything happened to her, I don’t know what I would do. Sending you a big hug