“Jon? Honey? Did you remember to take Wednesday off as a personal day?”
“Uh…No. Why? What’s Wednesday?”
Stunned silence.
“It. is. our. ANNIVERSARY.”
“Oh.”
“Our NINTH anniversary. We have been talking about this for a couple of weeks, remember? We were going to have time together instead of gifts? I got the kids taken care of? We are going to spend the day together in bed watching tons of movies and ordering in food and having lots of awesome “Relations” any and everywhere in the house? REMEMBER?
“Yes, but, um…”
“Um, WHAT?”
“Well, there’s a reason I didn’t ask for it off.”
“Yes?”
“The kids will be off of school after a half day. We can hardly relax around the house with them running everywhere.”
“I told you, I already arranged for them to play at my sisters after school and then they are spending the night with grandparents. So that isn’t a problem.”
“Um…”
“Um, WHAT?”
“Well, it’s…um…Our department Christmas Lunch…and…It was supposed to be last week, but they, um, changed it…”
“You mean a separate from the company Christmas party that we just attended on Saturday? You know, the one where I quelled my massive anxiety to perform with you for the people YOU work with?”
“Um…Yes?”
“But we had plans. I went over it and over it with you to see if you were happy with the arrangements. You have been coming home so late with all your consulting work that instead of gifts we were just going to spend time together. It’s not just some “Thing” or appointment, it’s our anniversary…”
“And it will still be our anniversary when I’m off of work.”
Silence. Horrible. Awkward, silence.
“I’m going to bed. Goodnight.”
Filed under: 
Ouch. I’d be pretty Darn peeved.
Our is Friday. I think NYDD still remembers.
dog house, definately dog house.
bad dog.
he’s going to have to perform all his very best tricks to make up for this one.
tut tut
Damn, but that ain’t right! I’m sorry.
Take your day off, anyway, and just spend money instead.
Well, at least it wasn’t your tenth. I mean, ninth? Who can remember that? :-)
Happy anniversary. At least for the only one who will be celebrating!
Hmmm…you need a big {{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}
But Jon needs a wake-up call!!!
I want to say more, but, ‘this too shall pass.’
Argh. I agree with rimarama.
I’m sorry. That sucks.
He’ll make it better, though. Men don’t think/talk well on their feet sometimes, but the good ones figure things out some time for reflection. I believe this is why so many of them enjoy military strategy.
Happy Anniversary.
AFTER some time for reflection. There’s rum on my cornflakes.
Uh-oh.
Nothing like a rawhide chew toy for dinner.
Come on. Jon’s not a bad guy. But he IS a guy. I agree it’s very sad and all to forget the plans for the anniversary blah blah blah.
But he didn’t actually forget the DAY of your anniversary. He had the date. I can see you being peeved at him for not listening to your plans, but in the doghouse? Come on. He remembered the day.
Of course I’m single! Why do you ask?
Happy Anniversary! Ours in today- 6 years. Heh. 6 and 9. Hee. I’ve asked Jeremy to just try to get home before he usually does (he to has been working late for oh, about 6 months now) so that he can take us out to dinner. Nothing romantic planned. I wouldn’t be suprised if he isn’t but a little too tired to properly celebrate the occasion later tonight…
rolled up newspaper right across the nose. Bad boy! I totally understand how you feel. Not to lessen the frustration on your end, but at least it is not your 25th and he spends the day with the “flavor of the month” only to “repent:” and do it again on the 32nd with a different “flavor”. This is why I own a dog. He is loyal and always happy to see me and spend quality and quantity time with me. He never leaves the toilet seat up, hog the remote, or the bed. Every meal I put before him gets rave reviews. HE never leaves dirty clothes or wet towels on the floor. Yup, glad I’ve got a dog.
:( Oooh! I’m sorry Lor. I hope that something is able to be worked out so you guys still have a special day together.
What’s depressing to me is that I’m pretty sure Kyle has the same tendencies as your husband. And here I’ve learned this after only two months of marriage. It’s like there was never a starry-eyed, giddy phase for us. We just slipped right into the “old married coots” phase. (Not that I think you’re an old married coot, loralee. I was just rambling because I’m going senile in my old age.) Anyway, I feel for you…
Oh. Dear.
I hope he realizes the error of his ways and more than makes up for it :)
Owie!
Happy Anniversary!
Crossing my fingers for you that Jon thinks it through and ends up taking the day off.
BTW…I think your plans for the day sound lovely…
Here is why I’m peeved (I’m not angry. Peeved is a better word.). I think this is going to be longer than my post.
Jon is a good guy. He works hard, provides for us and does a ton of work around the house and with the kids. He’s a better housekeeper in a lot of ways than I am.
We don’t have an awful lot in common. He is not chatty and we don’t have a lot of conversation(Which is why I talk to y’all so much).
We both lack qualities the other would wish for. He is not a bit sentimental so I have to be very clear about things like what I would like for my birthday and Christmas. He is not the effusive and overly affectionate type, but he is loving. He is just very logical, minimal and practical. Forget flowers, cards, ect. It doesn’t happen. He is not usually the one to plan things or call and ask if I want to meet him for lunch. These things are important to me and I crave them, but I deal with it because it isn’t who he is.
It makes plans like our Anniversary very important to me, because they happen rarely.
He has been working hard and long and late a lot lately. I have tried my hardest to be supportive of his consulting side work. It makes him happy, it brings in extra money, but I don’t see him that much. When I do? We’re both doing different things because again, not much in common. If I want to see him, I usually have to try to watch basketball or UFC. Thank goodness I like the History Channel. Does he really have to leave the room when I watch Cold Case or The Ghost Whisperer? Ok, the Ghost Whisperer he may have a point on. They might take away his Man Card for that one.
I miss him. This day was supposed to be about actually having time together. We talked about it.
I am not mad that he “Forgot” what day I was talking about. That happens all the time when you’re trying to figure out your schedule.
I am upset that I am being blown off for people that he spends all day with. That a Christmas lunch supersedes everything and means that our anniversary plans take a back seat. It isn’t like I originally made him choose which function. The lunch was supposed to be at a different time and it got changed. It stings that he just blows off our anniversary plans. That he thinks that this is absolutely ok because he’ll still be home in time to do ‘Something’.
This wasn’t about marking the day. It was about time with my husband.
Yes, we can change the plans and that is probably what will happen. I don’t even know if I want to do it anymore. It has kind of lost its appeal at this point.
So? Dinner and a movie it is, I guess.
Yup. Longer than my original rant.
plus, i know that department! and i love them, but if i was him, i’d pick YOU. DUH.
there is another side to this as well, but it won’t be discussed here. i’ll have to ttyl about it.
Oy. I am sorry for the supreme disappointment. I hope it ends up being a good day anyway.
Ugh. Seriously.
boo, hiss.
I am SURE that the people he works with would understand if he told them, “I can’t be there, it is my wedding anniversary and my wife and I have plans”. Surely someone else can run the function without him?!
Apples:
Oh, he COULD. He just doesn’t want to. THAT is the problem of it all.
At this point? I doubt we’re going to do anything. It has left a really bad taste in my mouth.
Looks like the “relations” are out of the question!! (A trip to Idaho could cheer you up immensely!!) Hope it all works out – I’m thinking happy thoughts for you.
Since it’s officially Wednesday here, happy anniversary! 9 years at 34… scary! But wonderful at the same time. Can I insert a *sigh* here?
Dougie, you know I love you, but I must be clear on one point:
I AM ONLY THIRTY-THREE, DAMMIT!!!!!!!!!
Man. You know you’re getting old when you start getting bitchy about getting your age right!
Huggies. And yes, you may insert as many “Sighs” on this site as you like.
Ya. My anniversary is officially over. No gift. Dinner with Jeremy and Hali at The Black Eyed Pea. He didn’t get home early. Or even on time. We didn’t buy each other anything.
I bathed Hali. I put her to bed. Looked at Vespas on craigslist with him for a few minutes. I got a little peck on the mouth and a “happy anniversary” and some attempt at I joke I don’t even remember. Then he went to bed. He’s been asleep for hours.
No “relations” to celebrate our anniversary. This could have been an average Saturday.
He mentioned he thought about stopping and getting me a card on the way home, but figured I’d just want him to get home, as he was already late.
I’m bummed out. We are in the same boat- I just wanted some extra time and LUVIN’ tonight. Didn’t happen. Guess I still have work to do on the whole ‘training myself to never get my hopes up or expect anything’ bit I’ve been working on.
Come over and we’ll eat pounds of chocolate, rant about our husbands and watch some great movies from the 40′s where the men always come through!
Thanks for letting me vent.
I’m really sorry. Really. Hopefully you’ll find some time soon.
You’re 33? Me too, except I celebrated my 11th anniversary in November.
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I hope he’s got a big rock for your stocking. Not that it makes up for, but still. Sheesh!