I now know what it is like to be my friend

August 4, 2006

Readers.

I am so completely overwhelmed, touched and happy I feel like I could burst.

I got a package in the mail today.

A GIFT. Not a computer case for my husband, papers involving purchase of our land or our drug shipment from Columbia.

NO.

A REAL, HONEST-TO-GOODNESS-CARE-PACKAGE!To appreciate just how much that means to me, you would have to understand just how I feel about gifts and their significance.

They. mean.everything.to.me.

It doesn’t matter the amount of money spent. One of my most prized gifts was a set of dog tags made on Valentines day. There was also a typewriter piece, but I won’t get into that. Expensive is awesome. My husband designed a gold necklace with gems set just how I like for each of our three boys it is so precious to me. It doesn’t have to cost money, though… It can be as simple as good friends bringing a Diet Coke to show their love, a plaque with my sons name done in caligraphy by a friend, a small bag of BBQ chips, a pair of sparkley sandals that matched a pair the giver bought because of you. They are all dear and loved.

Packages received in the mail can either make you sing with joy (My “I’m blogging this” T-Shirt sent from France) or break your heart (I don’t need to say anymore about this). When I lose or break or misplace gifts, I am devastated.

I love gifts because for me, it is all about the CARE and the LOVE that goes into getting off your ass to pick out some little something that reminds you of that person. I am always intrigued to see what people think of to buy me. My friend Michelle is very good at gift giving because she loves to do the unusual, just like me. She bought me a rockin purse. I had no idea I needed or wanted a purse, but I LOVED that thing. It was perfect, right down to the pink and chocolate polka dot liner. She also bought me bras for my new set of “Girls” for last year’s birthday and was a co-conspirator in filling Karen’s fridge with beverages.

We get along.

I have been known to avalanche people with gifts. Not all the time, and I will go through phases, but it is a way that I show love, affection, worry, concern, guilt, and sorrow.

I try to put thought into whatever gift I give to people, whether it be an imported soda, a quirky lunchbox or a tub of Muhumurra and pita bread along with a bag of trout I caught. In my younger years I was out of control. I was so grateful to have any friends at all that I used to leave them gifts in their lockers, on cars, on their porch and look for any gift-giving occasion under the sun. “Happy Arbor Day!!!” I think I bought my friends a mall once.

This little quality of mine also has it’s down sides. I have been accused of trying to buy love, butter people up, show other’s weakness and failures with gifts. When you tie your affection and feelings so closely into physical tokens, that can hurt like a mother, let me tell you.

It is rare that I meet anyone who is quite like me in this area.

Ok…I never actually have.

UNTIL NOW.

Actually? Today, I have been outdone.

It must be something with the name, Loralee.

Loralee Christiansen in California (Thing Two as she is affectionately known here) and I have had so many good conversations. She has been so kind and thoughtful, wise and understanding of me and my weird little ways.

We have so many similarities it is bizarre. I just love her.

She knows that I have really been struggling right now. Many do, and I cannot express the KINDNESS, the care, the concern and just plain, “I have restored faith in humanity” that I have gotten from people. The calls, the letters, emails have been so amazing to me.

Then, I get THIS in the mail. Books, a fabulous card, a great letter (We like so many of the same tunes, Thing Two), Bath products, makeup, loads of CD’S, perfume…it just kept going and going.

I shook and cried and GRINNED, at every object and word. I was like a little kid at Christmas!

Her letter is also a carbon copy of ME! See, LLC, no one understands the beauty of an 8-page letter like ME! When a friend was deployed to duty, I think I must have worn the post office out with packages, cards, letters, brownies, DVD’s…you get the picture. He finally told me to stop, for the love of god. (It can be a bit overwhelming to bask in my affection, I’m afraid.)

My favorite item and line from the letter?
“I have enclosed two tubes of Crest Whitening Expressions toothpaste. First off, Two is just completely strange enough to send you toothpaste. Has anyone else ever sent you toothpaste? HMMMMM? I thought not!”

Could you die?


For her to send me such and amazing gift is just beyond me. BEYOND.

For once in my life, I am freaking speechless as to how I feel (DO YOU KNOW HOW HARD THAT IS TO DO, THING TWO??!)

I bless the day that she googled her name at 4 am and found me.
More than that, I am glad there is such a kind human on the earth.
I am glad that there is someone else out there that understands such a quirky, unusual part of me.

You rock, Thing Two

15 Responses to “I now know what it is like to be my friend”

  • Anonymous says:

    You are so damn cool, California Loralee.

    I wish I had a fan club. You deserve it, Ms. Toons.

    Kris

  • erin says:

    I too, love to give gifts, and have been accused of overdoing it (which isn’t possible, in my book). Also, I love getting packages in the mail! I love checking my mail, pulling the little door open to reveal wonderous surprises (usually bills and car advertisements, but still). I’m glad you got a care package, you deserve every bit of love. Loralee (any Loralee, obviously) rocks!

  • Sharon says:

    What a wonderful idea! And yes, you deserve it!!!!!
    Enjoy!

  • Anonymous says:

    Damn. I wish I had thought of doing something so great.

    I am afraid I lack the creativity. Then again, it may have to do with some weirdo Loralee-Gene you both seem to be blessed with.

    Don’t be so down on how you love people. I would like to have that kind of treatment from any of my friends.

    A typewriter piece? Someone actually gave you a typewriter piece as a gift?

    K–

  • Jayne says:

    I have been trying to get her to elaborate on the typewriter piece as well, K.

    That is so neat, LL. I am really happy for you.

    Everyone deserves packages sent through the mail. It reminds us that we’re loved.

  • Jose says:

    that was really cool.

  • Penguin says:

    That is a way cool thing Thing Two did for you! She rocks.

    Now, had I known it was THAT easy to win your affections, I would be sending you weekly gifts!

  • Erin says:

    Wow! I’m so jealous! That is so cool! I’m a big “gift giver” too… I probably have more fun watching people open my gifts than getting them sometimes!

  • HLH says:

    it is so much more fun to buy a present for someone else than it is for yourself. I am always much more likely to spend money on a friend than I ever would on myself.

    Bask in the glow of your specialness!!

  • Just Me says:

    Aw that is so sweet!

  • Anonymous says:

    I think that it is wonderful that someone sent a package to cheer you up. LL2 you kick ass.

    Mister

  • Anonymous says:

    Hey there sweet #One….
    I’m soooo glad that you finally got the package! I am SO happy that it cheered you up. Geez! What a nice post. It made me feel so good to put a smile on your face. I had soooo much fun putting that care package together for you.
    I think that if you had a P.O. Box you’d be getting gifts EVERY day from your readers. We all seem to think you’re something pretty special and I have to say that all of the folks who post on your site are AMAZING and supportive and thoughtful people. All of them ROCK! Well, it’s time for night-nights (that’s what I say to my son!) I had a class today 8-5 and gigged from 9-1. It is now 2:45 am. I still have to write a paper and do a little quiz before I go to bed to just get up again at 7am and go to class from 8-5 and then gig again from 9-1…..GOD….help me….I’m too old for this shit!
    Love you,
    Two

  • Mark says:

    “Two” is cool, but she is working WAY too much. That kind of schedule breaks people’s health. Two needs some care packages–especially packages of time.

  • Anonymous says:

    You should put an Amazon wish list on your page, so that I can buy you a token of appreciation for the hours of intertainment I get stuck in drab hotel rooms for work.

    Nothing exciting in that last statement. I work with soil.

    K–

  • mighty mouse says:

    CLL, you kick all sorts of ass.

    I’d tell Loralee she kicks ass too but she already knows that. :D

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